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Postpartum what to expect when your not expecting anymore 😕

I’ve wanted to write these posts since having my baby but only so i could remember everything clearly. The birth for me was such a blur and my husband had to tell me what had happened after the event when we were back home.

You are so prepared for pregnancy because your reading all the books and taking all the advice in your stride. If like me you’d practiced your hypnobirthing, had your music and the meditations ready to go, you felt prepared if not a little anxious about the birth of your baby but because your bags where packed and car seat installed weeks ahead no panic.

However for me nobody gives you the forewarning you need to handle what your body and mind will go through after birth! So next week I’d like to take you through my essentials to get you through plus some of it may be a little TMI so you can pick and choose to read, you’ve been warned.

This week however I’ve made a massive step towards my recovery and am back on the roads again in my own car I can’t tell you how much this has helped me mentally!

Now I’m not saying you have to drive to enjoy maternity leave or anything silly like that because we have done just fine walking for the past 9 weeks. For me though it was a fantastic leap forward as I feel like I was missing the freedom of not having a vehicle just in case.

A great leap for someone else may be getting back in their jeans or been able to go on a night out.

I’m looking forward to using my rediscovered freedom to live the #maternity leave life I dreamed of lol.

So please stay tuned because of the coming weeks I’ll be trying to give tips and advice about how to make the most of a crazy postpartum experience. Ps. It all worth it when they smile ☺️

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New mum alone with baby

Being alone with your baby that first night in hospital is a scary prospect. I said bye to hubby at 8pm after only having our baby at 1:45pm that afternoon. The moment you are left alone with your baby you feel as though you are in a bubble. It’s mostly overwhelming love but don’t worry if you feel something different. You have just been through a massive ordeal even if it was the most perfect birth, your body will not feel the same and your life will have changed forever.

Everyone will tell you when you get home and settle in with your new family unit that it will be easier. On that first night in hospital I was exhausted, I was emotional, I was breastfeeding but mainly just staring into these new eyes that I had imagined for longer than I want to admit.

You dream of the moment with your baby in your arms and expect that to be exactly what had filled those dreams, love and for me that first night I experienced love and hope. I believed I could be the mother I wanted to be I’d conquered the initial fear and overcome the worry. What would you do alone with your baby for the very first time? Well instincts take over your sleep deprived, exhausted body. Even struggling to feed at 3am didn’t dampen my spirits. I rang my bell, handed him to a midwife, gave her some pre mixed formula and asked her to feed him. He was fine this will not affect his life after this moment, I felt no guilt in doing this.

The thing is when you get home and your partner or your family are supporting you it’s like a little bubble again protecting your mind from wondering, all your concentration is on your new human.

It’s weeks later when it hit me that every morning when I take him out of his Moses basket and go into our kitchen, I’m just making tea for one. I’ve got a person whom I’m solely responsible for in my arms. These eyes look up at you and you are staying, not leaving and coming back after work, your here. For all the nappy changes, for the feeds, the tears and the smiles.

Being a mother is rewarding in so many ways and is a miracle when you think about what your body has done.

But sometimes it feels lonely and that’s ok too, after you’ve made baby noises for hours. Been out for a walk not wanted to put your headphones in just in case they make a noise. Sitting up in the dark nursing in the middle of the night, trying not to wake your better half because he has to work.

Know that it’s ok to have feelings other than love while caring for your little one but make sure you share how your feeling, arrange to meet friends and speak to your loved ones. Give yourself space and time to remember who you were but embrace your new self, embark on a new journey with a positive outlook along with baby. Enjoy getting to know yourself in your new role because although you may not want to, you have been changed!

Making Memories

The first weeks of having a newborn are gone in a blink of an eye. Being present and in the moment is so important but it’s so hard. Before his birth I was so organised and imagined all the things I was going to do as soon as he was born, what pictures I would take and all the details I would remember. 

This project was something I imagined I would do in the first couple of days so I could savour just how tiny his hands and feet had been but as life goes with a newborn nothing is what you expect. I didn’t actually get round to this until he was 6 weeks old but it was so important for me to do this, as it was a gift from my baby shower and I didn’t want to waste the opportunity of preserving our memory of just how little he had been once upon a time. 

This was fairly difficult as he always has his little fists tightly wrapped around anything close enough or in his chops! 

  

Below is how my prints turned out as per instructions included, I was pretty impressed as I was alone with baby when I decided to embark on this.

  
I wanted to tint the prints just for my own personal project. I decided to use chalk this was probably a strange choice but I only wanted a very light effect and wanted to fade out the colour due to the hand print being only partial.  

   
This dovecraft chalk set to be honest I hardly ever get to use so I was very happy to have a little dabble with it. The photos don’t show very well but it is a little shimmery which looks great against the mat plaster. 

   
 
Lovely gift and so excited to add it to our memory box. 

So to all, treasure those moments and don’t put off the things you want to do as your baby will grow so quickly. You won’t realise until it’s too late to capture those little tiny features. 

Hope you’ve enjoyed this post and look forward to the next one. 

Inspired 

I’ve been gone from this blog for so long I’m not sure I even remember how to type again! 

I’ve recently undergone the huge life changing experience of becoming a mother and need an outlet once again to share my creativity if you’ll have me back. 

I’ve found the last seven weeks to be some of the most challenging of my life despite the amazing support I’ve received. What with navigating the exhausting task of breastfeeding, losing the structure of work and moving from me and my husband having our own special bond over 11 years together. Now to us being a threesome which I’m more greatful for than anything. My baby boy is as I write this sleeping on my arm and I can hear his little breath and feel it on my skin we have a love and connection I cannot explain.

Despite this I’ve felt a little lost and directionless, people have said to just go with the flow and others to pull it together to find myself again and that is what I hope to do. I hope that I can pursue some of my loves while making the most of my time with my baby. 

I need to challenge myself to reach my fitness goals as I’ve been an enthusiastic crossfit gym member for the last few years and during my pregnancy. 

I’d also like to begin sharing my creativity again. This blog was originally created all those years ago to help me find a outlet for these crafts I was passionate about and as life changed and grew more hectic and work life balance tipped to work, I’ve neglected my hobbies. No longer! 

This blog may not be exactly the same as it was before it may encompass all aspects of our new lives but I’m determined to find me under all the crap I’ve gathered over the last few years. 

The trigger for this whole post was looking into the Moses basket this morning and seeing my son smile back at me for the first time. He makes my world and I want him to be inspired to do what he wants in life whatever that is. So what’s the best way to help with this? I’m going to guess lead by example. 

Thanks for reading and hope you can follow us on our new adventures. 

Quilling Finished Card

Ooh a lazy Sunday,
Last nights party was great for a nice catch up.

So to finish my Friday post 🙂
Here are the pictures from my finishing touches and completed card, short and sweet today I’m afraid but I’ll be back Friday for another crafty instalment. Thanks for reading x X x
Ps. Only thing I regret is not ironing the ribbon on this card first before adhering it, it really looks much worse in the pictures than it did in the flesh.

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Honeymoon Day 13

Good Morning lovely people,

Saturday started out in the sun by the pool just chilling out and reading. The night before there was a rain storm and the beds looked dry but when we sat down the water poured out lol. We didn’t mind as it doesn’t take long to dry in this weather and the pool was right in front so we could just jump in.
I went for our drinks at the bar and the waitress had ordered me a shot lol it was only 11.30am. This was the start of a great day, even thought the sun had disappeared behind some clouds by 1pm we had another fabulous lunch and then went to the craft shed, we picked out a ceramic skull to hand paint together. The painting was fun we took it in turns and did bits of the design each and then we have it wait until Monday to see the varnished finished product ready to pack in our case.
The afternoon flew by and we missed the afternoon rain and ended up getting ready to go for tea nice and early, Mia Casa is where we had chosen for our last Saturday meal here in Mexico. I had beef Carpaccio to start Jonny had leaf green salad then he had beef tender loin with mash and I had salmon and spinach ravioli. The meal was fab, we went straight to the bar and that was that, the night was so good but I was so ill from all the alcohol lol.
Have a fabulous day thanks for reading. X xx

Honeymoon Day 9

Hope you enjoyed Jonny’s takeover, I know I did lol.

My day 9 started nice and early around 7am, I was the first one by the pool, it was so peaceful. Jonny joined me later but I’d had my iPod on shuffle and was on the four poster tapping my feet to the mixture of songs from meatloaf to Lilly.
The temperature was about 34 degrees but I was loving it 🙂
Me and Jonny played in the pool for ages after both lapping up the heat close to midday, deciding to leave a few items including the towels on the bed as we headed for beach BBQ again for lunch. The wind had picked up and a giant black cloud was creeping in, a waiter had said loudly rain in 20 minutes we had both looked at each other thinking can we eat quick enough smiling we decided to risk it. The waiter wasn’t wrong and half way through our chicken wings the heavens opened, warm rain lashed at us as we abandoned our table heading for the nearest shelter, stood under an umbrella we laughed together this was not the first time for us at a rained off BBQ. Everyone else had deserted.
So with the rain refusing to give in, us still in our swimming entire we walked all the way back to the swing bar just outside our room and resided there until tea time managing to drink them out of Captain Morgans spiced rum. The rain fell and fell but with slight let ups every time though a young groundsman would run out using his rain clearer to dry the stone floor round hrs bar, he’s was constantly met with more rain. We felt really bad but couldn’t help but be entertained.

For Tuesday tea we decided to go Mexican again, this time we asked them to hold the European version and hit us with the Mexican taste, omg did they hit us we had habanero dip for our chips and the taste was great but my mouth was on fire! I was slightly over enthusiastic with the spoonful I put on my fajitas too (small mistake). The meal and service was fantastic again and I don’t think some of the reviews are very fair as we have enjoyed all the restaurants equally.

Thanks for bearing with me again know this is a day late but I really appreciate you taking time to read my little blog 🙂 thanks again x x x